*Originally published in 2013. As I’m re-launching my boudoir photography business now that we live in Savannah, GA, it’s been especially fun to see how much we have grown as individuals and as a couple since this post.*
Brad. Day in and day out, he’s the one I’m with the most. The one I share everything with…myself, our Charlie, home, pancakes, cries, laughs, Saturdays, problems, colds, failures, successes. Naturally, his opinion carries a heavy weight. I was reminded of this recently when I returned from “fight club.” Fight Club is a 3-day intensive workshop held by Jeff Jochum and Team-X. We take everything that we learned during my one-to-one coaching with Jeff and place it in a pressure cooker. At the end of the three days, I came home re-newed and motivated to make some changes and continue down my path. We poured ourselves a drink and I told Brad all about my new goals. I went on and on about everything we discussed and how I want to move my business forward. Following my enthusiasm and excitement, the “but’s” started coming. I’ve always experienced a bit of self-doubt, so I tend to proceed (too) slowly. I recognize that I need to kick that self-doubting voice out of my head, but Brad did it for me.
“Just (ehem) do it, Von.”
Loud and clear. I was jolted. Happily jolted. I need him to be tough on me, especially when he hears me driving myself away from what I want. After ten seconds of shock, the only way I could respond was, “Okay! I will!”
I depend on him as much as he depends on me. And sometimes hearing that tough-love has the greatest affect when it’s coming from my husband.